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I’m Going to Be a Dad. Wait, What?

So, we’re having a baby. Those of you who follow me on social media may already be aware of this. It’s all public at this point. Our due date (May 3rd!) is fast approaching, and he’ll be here before we know it.

It’s a boy. I still can’t quite wrap my mind around the fact that a real baby boy is about to come into our lives. I know intellectually that this is going to change everything, but it’s hard to connect with it in my gut. It still feels unreal.

I don’t want to make this whole thing even more theoretical by trying to write a thoughtful blog post about it. Fatherhood is probably one of the most theologized concepts out there, being one of our main metaphors for God, and all. But I’m not interested in going there. Becoming a father myself is almost unimaginable for me right now, two months out; I don’t want to further distance myself by withdrawing into theory.

Still, I thought I should say something. You know, cause we’re friends. A lot of my deepest reflection happens in this dialogue I have with you, the readers of this blog. I want to bring this big change in my life into our conversation. I want to let you know that this is real. It’s personal. It’s scary, and I don’t know what’s going to happen. All the parents out there tell me it’s going to be alright. It’s going to be great!

And I know you’re right. I know it in that same, intellectual way that I know I’m going to be a father soon. But I just can’t quite imagine it yet.

Thanks for listening. I hope you’ll pray for me and Faith, and our families, as the due date gets closer and we try to wrap our minds around what this huge, joyous change is going to mean for our life together.

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  • Duncan Pugh

    🙂 Get ready to be blown away! It will feel very real in a very good way!

    • Still can’t quite imagine it, but very excited!!


    Sleep NOW (both of you) as you are looking at at least three months of sleep deprivation once he arrives.

    • We’re trying to store up our energy reserves!

  • Mary Swale

    What lovely news, Micah. Congratulations and blessing to all three of you. Lucky baby to have a dad with your level of commitment and energy. You’ll rock as a dad!

  • Virginia A. Spatz

    “amen” to all previous comments. Probably repeating myself but hope you & Faith enjoy being “two” for the few weeks remaining even while trying to wrap your heads around the change that is coming. ALSO: like the Israelites in the wilderness, you’ll be entering very foreign, very scary territory, but you won’t be out there alone. And your little one will help teach you what you need to know.

  • charlesburchfield

    This came up for me, micah; ask your dad….WTF!?

  • Laurent Delobel

    God bless you. Laurent.

  • Good luck, I’m happy for the both of you–well, three of you! I do have to wonder how it will affect the ministry. With four kids, I really can’t participate in most of the hipster worship groups. And taking everyone 500 miles over rolling mountains to spend a weekend in kid-unsafe dorm rooms doesn’t work either. I know Circle of Hope seems to handle kids pretty well but I haven’t seen it done well among the Quaker worship groups (it’s hit and miss even with long-established Quaker meetings).

    Of course, maybe you’ll be lucky and have one of those semi-mythical kids that contentedly sketch in coloring books for hours as their parents attend to Quaker business.

    • I knew you’d have a ray of sunshine for me, Martin. 😉

      I have absolutely no idea of what having a kid around will mean, but I’m hoping that perhaps the presence of children will spur our community to do more work on being family-friendly, which would be a step forward indeed!

  • Congratulation! Few things are more important and few things affect us more.